I want to qualify all of this by saying that if a woman is appropriately dressed, meaning everything is covered and not tight to make sure every curve is accentuated and a man is still having thoughts about her, that is not anything to do with her. That man is having deeper issues than just the normal battle usually dealt with. There is also a responsibility that God gives men to rise above all of this. He's already provided the way through the freedom in Christ and the aforementioned book gives very practical ways to do that. What I'm wanting to bring to the attention of the ladies out there, and I'm speaking specifically to the Christian ladies, is this: Fashion is of the world. I'm not saying don't try and be fashionable or anything, but just because a super model comes busting down the runway in a see through shirt, doesn't mean its okay for you to wear! If you are showing cleavage, you are sharing something with everyone else that doesn't belong to them. The "girls" should be for your husband's eyes only. If you aren't married yet, then save that view for your future husband. Same goes for your backside and thighs. I know a lot of you might be saying, "What's the big deal about thighs?!" Let's think of it this way, first I know you've heard men say, "I'm a leg man." Also, guess where the thigh leads? Straight up to their imagination going wild with you as the center of the fantasy! You may be rebelling against all of this just like I would have just four short years ago, as in this is their problem, if they are having issues, then they don't need to be looking! But let me tell you that according to the Bible you have a responsibility to keep your brother from stumbling, if it is your action or behavior that is causing it. Plus, think about it this way. Where would you have them look, between the way women/girls are dressing these days, ads on billboards, ads in magazines, t.v. commercials, no place is safe. Not even church! There is a reason the Bible speaks so much and clearly on sexual immorality, lust, debauchery, etc. Its a huge issue and not only does it permeate from every corner of our society, but the desires for these things come out of our own hearts! (Psalm 81:12, Matthew 15:19, Romans 1:24) Its destructive! The Bible even says in Matthew 5:27, 28 - You have heard that it was said, YOU SHALL NOT COMMIT ADULTERY; but I say to you, that everyone who looks on a woman to lust for her has committed adultery with her already in his heart.
Okay, so really all of that was to say this. Next time you are getting ready for church, really take a look at yourself. What do you notice first? If you've got cleavage showing or your rear is very well showcased or whatever bottoms you have on are showing most of your thigh, think about finding something else because making that choice will save the men at your church one less battle to have to fight. Oh, yeah and talk to your husband about this. You might be surprised at what he has to say......
I also welcome your comments and conclusions. :)
Here's the link for Every Man's Battle